Nobody enters a marriage expecting it to end. And yet, all too often, marriages end in divorce. Whether you are engaged, newly married, or have been married for years, it may be helpful to understand some of the common reasons why marriages end. This knowledge can help you avoid making the same mistakes in your relationship that could threaten the longevity of your marriage.
Lack of Communication
Communication is an essential aspect of everyday life, especially in a relationship. When a couple has been married for an extended period, they often get stuck in their routine. Being in your routine can affect spouses' communication. Whether either person has been busy at work or taking care of children, they can go through the motions without intentionally checking in with their spouse. This can lead to a lack of intimacy and the feeling of not knowing each other like they used to.
An excellent way to combat your marriage from becoming stale due to a lack of communication is to set aside time a few times each week to sit out with your spouse and talk about life. Ask them questions about what has been happening, any new interests, or talk without distractions. Additionally, couples therapy is a great option when struggling to communicate with each other effectively.
Unresolved Issues from the Past
Many marriages end because couples never take the time to deal with their issues from the past. This includes childhood trauma and unresolved conflict from previous relationships. Often, the spouse with a tumultuous history will assume their spouse is the same as those who have hurt them. This inevitably causes the spouse to lash out, even if their husband or wife did not do anything wrong.
A great way to work through this problem is to encourage open communication. Allow your spouse to talk to you freely about past issues without placing any judgment on them. Additionally, if you are a spouse with past issues, therapy is a great way to work through your problems and will help you become the best partner you can be.
Lack of Intimacy
Life is stressful, and unfortunately, this can lead to a lack of intimacy with your partner. Between work, childcare, and finances, stress sometimes takes a toll. Although it is normal for couples to notice a decrease in sex after marriage, intimacy is still crucial to maintaining a healthy relationship. Additionally, intimacy is not just about sex. Physical and emotional intimacy go hand in hand.
Emotional intimacy is how you express affection. This can range from a smile across the room after a long work day to letting your partner know how much you love and appreciate them. On the same note, physical intimacy can range from holding each other's hands to a kiss on the forehead.
If you're facing difficulties in your marriage, don't despair – there is hope! You can make significant progress in saving your marriage by taking steps to improve communication, actively incorporating intimacy with your partner, and addressing unresolved issues from the past.
At Orshan, Spann & Fernandez-Mesa, we aim to make every part of the divorce process as simple and painless as possible. Contact our Miami-Dade divorce attorneys today at (305) 853-9161 to schedule your initial consultation and get started on the path to a better future.