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Can Sleep Divorce Save My Marriage?

Recently, entertainer Carson Daly revealed how sleep divorce made a big difference in his marriage. According to Yahoo! Life, a digital entertainment news website, Daly and his wife, Siri, sleep divorced while she was pregnant, and it turned out to be the best thing for their marriage.

What Is Sleep Divorce?

According to Yahoo! Life, sleep divorce is a term that is used to describe spouses regularly sleeping in separate beds. Depending on what the couple prefers, their beds can either be in the same bedroom or in separate bedrooms.

How Can Sleep Divorce Save My Marriage?

While there’s no guaranteed way to fix anyone’s marriage, there are little things that couples can do that can make a significant difference in the quality of their relationship. Sleep divorce can be one of those little things. If you and your spouse are struggling to share a bed (or a bedroom), it could be much more damaging to your marriage than you realize.

No one is at their best when they are sleep deprived. If you and your spouse are not able to get quality sleep while sharing a bed with one another, you’re going to be tired, cranky, and resentful. Feeling that way on a consistent basis, especially if those feelings relate to your relationship with your significant other, can chip away at the foundation of your marriage. Over time, it could lead to you and your spouse arguing frequently and becoming unsatisfied with your marriage.

Fortunately, there’s a way to cut off those types of issues at the pass. If you and your spouse are having problems sleeping in the same bed, try sleeping in separate beds. The benefits of sleeping in separate beds include the following:

  • Improve Sleep Quality – When you share a bed with someone, you each must deal with the other’s issues. That can include snoring, accidentally kicking and bumping one another, dealing with a partner’s illnesses (colds, allergies, flu, et cetera), sleep apnea, different sleep schedules, insomnia, hot sleeper versus cold sleeper, and sheet/covers stealers. Sleeping in separate beds can eliminate many of those issues and allow each of you to sleep much better.
  • Create Longing – Building anticipation can be a particularly good thing for your relationship. Sleeping in separate beds or rooms will allow you and your spouse to miss each other, which can mean that you’re more excited to see one another, like when one of you has been out of town and you reunite after the trip.
  • Prevent Arguments – You’re going to argue. All couples do. However, if you and your spouse are well rested, then you are probably not going to be as irritable as you would be otherwise. Spouses who aren’t irritable are less likely to argue as much as partners who are irritable.
  • Time to Yourself – Me time is important for everyone. Having your own bed or room to sleep in will give you a little extra space to relax and recharge. You can’t be your best for your significant other if you don’t practice self-care first.
  • Less Pressure for Physical Intimacy – You married your spouse for a reason. You want to have sex with them. However, that doesn’t mean that you and your spouse will always be in the mood to have sex at the same time. Sharing the same bed can lead to a spouse who isn’t in the mood to have sex feeling pressured to have sex with a spouse who is in the mood. Sleeping in separate beds can help prevent that from happening.

Discuss Your Situation with Our Experienced Divorce Lawyers Today

In many cases, it is going to take more than sleep divorce to repair a marriage. There are several issues other than a couple’s sleep patterns that can lead to one spouse or both questioning whether the marriage should continue.

At Orshan, Spann & Fernandez-Mesa, we understand the ups and downs of marriage and we have seen what marriages can survive and what they can’t. Our experienced family law attorneys have been successfully guiding clients in Miami-Dade and its surrounding communities through the divorce process for years. We treat our clients like family and are dedicated to protecting their rights and securing the best possible outcome for their situations.

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